Can I just say this...unless somehow MY child's behaviour is affecting your life then maybe you should just back off and see that just like there are two sides to every story, there are (at least) two different ways to be a good parent. Why is your way the right way? Maybe your way worked for you, and your children, but maybe that way doesn't work for me and my children. Or even better, maybe I've tried your way, and every other know-it-all's way and that didn't work either. Maybe my child isn't as smart as your child, or as advanced. Or maybe, your kid is the dumb one and mine needs a more creative and strategic way of learning. Just kidding...all kids are equally dumb. No worries.
Let's start with being pregnant. Do this. Don't do that. Ughhh...you CANNOT be eating sushi?! Did you just touch the kitty litter box?! You mean you aren't doing every single prenatal class available? Did you smoke AND drink during the first three months cause you weren't tracking your period daily and didn't know you were pregnant yet? OMG. You could KILL your unborn child that way.
Worst pregnant person ever.
You used an epidural?? That's not natural. Why would you want a drug-free birth?? That's so unnatural. You're NOT going to breastfeed?! Cover those boobs! Why are you covering your boobs?!
You DIDN'T hire a doula?! Dumbass...(Soo, I agree with this one, but whatevs!)
Worst new mommy ever.
The little demons aren't even a few hours old and you've already been bombarded with a thousand things you did "wrong" during the nine months YOU grew them. Wouldn't it be nice to just get a "good job" now and then?
I'm going to let you in on a little secret...it doesn't get better. As if the mommy-guilts aren't bad enough anyway, you will now continue to get the mommy-bashing from this point til they reach college. Maybe it will stop then if you manage to not raise a sociopath serial killer. And if you DID raise one of those, well obviously you did something horribly wrong right?! Cause I'm sure all parents of serial killers intended to raise them as such.
I wish we lived in a world where we could all just be supportive and believe that parents are just honestly trying their best. My best might be different than yours but it's still MY best. Maybe I am raising my children the way I was raised. Maybe I'm raising them the complete opposite of how I was raised. Maybe, just maybe, I'm seriously trying my hardest to just do my 'job' and get my kids to 18 years old without permanently damaging them for life.
If only...
Toddler time...I would never let MY child do that. I would never let MY child do that. If I was you I would do this. If I was you I wouldn't do that. He still has a bottle?! She's still in diapers?!? MY toddler is a genius. MY toddler is soooo polite (even though you have to remind them each and every time). MY toddler would never...
Guess what?! I've said it before...toddlers are assholes. And yes, your toddler is an asshole too. But as mommies, we are blinded by our own spawns assholery and clearly only see the assholery of others.
EVERY child will, at some point, throw a tantrum in a public place, steal a toy from another child, bite you, hit you, and the vast majority will even risk their own lives by defiantly saying NO for the millionth time. Your perfect little toddler is no different than the rest. If you think they are somehow an idealistic little breed of their own then you are clearly over-medicated on clonazepam and are still in a fog.
The difference between your devil-spawn and mine is their personalities. Some toddlers are quieter, some may be able to play well by themselves. I know a few who rarely cry. Some are more outgoing, more talkative, and more stubborn. There are rarely two toddlers who are the exact same. So why would we all have the exact parenting tactics?
Can't we all just agree that as long as no laws are being broken that we are all just trying our best? Despite the 1000's of books on raising the perfect child, there are no rules when it comes to parenting the best way you know how. The very last thing a stressed out parent needs is to feel the wrath of a social media attack.
Maybe next time, instead of pointing out someone's "flaw", you take the time to find something you actually admire about the way they are raising their kids. Instead of saying 'you're doing that wrong', how about 'you're doing this right'...
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