Did I Mention I Bought a House?!

Oh yeah...so I bought a house. I which I could say "We Bought a Zoo"....man, I love that movie!
But anyway....I bought a house!!!

See!!

Turns out buying a house is a wee bit stressful and costs A LOT of money. Who knew? Someone really should have told me the difference.  I mean we bought the house I'm in now, but that was like 8 years ago and I really think it's like giving birth, you forget about the pain the second the baby arrives....but then you get pregnant again, go into labour and you're all like OH MY FRIGGIN CRAP...why did I do this again?!?

Fees for this and fees for that, closing costs, down-payment and those dreaded lawyers. And don't even mention appointments and meetings...I haven't had three seconds to process it.

It also turns out that when you split your stuff up you end up needing to replace a lot.  Looking for donations of a couch and chair...if you have one or what to buy me one I'd gladly take it. Same goes for any dressers, bookshelves or patio furniture. I move in on the 28th, a week away, and at this rate I might be sitting on buckets for a while! If you come to visit me you might want to bring a pillow for your bum. You also might want to bring me wine...just sayin'.

The process of packing has begun, which I always love as it's de-clutter time!  I'm still on my less-is-more kick so as I pack up all the blue bags for donations it's a sigh of relief as it's less to unpack.  Do I need a thousand sweaters? Or a hundred scarves? Thanks, but no thanks. Bonus points if I can get the kids to do the same.  How many pairs of pants does one boy need?

The last few weeks have been hectic, the new few are sure to be the same. But I really am looking forward to the process of making it my new home!!

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For Immediate Press Release

After nearly twelve years of marriage, Todd and I would like to announce that we have decided to formally separate  For those who follow these sorts of things (thank you Facebook), we would like to dispel any possible rumors and explain that our separation is not the result of any secret love affairs, or scandals.  This decision has been made with much thought after months of marriage counselling.

We happily remain committed to raising our children is the least destructive way possible.  Therefore, we both vow to refrain from talking about the details of this situation on social media.  We feel strongly that, while a divorce is not the most pleasant thing to go through, it is a private situation that is nobody's concern but ours. It does not have to be a full on fight to the death blow out.

We both have love in our hearts for each other and will likely remain the best of friends. We still do family activities together, we plan to share holidays together and maybe even a weekly dinner or two. For anyone else going through a similar situation...it does not have to be a "bad" thing.  In the span of a month, we have completed an agreement, both financially and in regards to custody that we both find fair. No lawyers, no silent treatments and no fighting in front of the kids. We take great pride in knowing that simple things like taking the children swimming together is still something we do even though we are no longer a couple.

This is not a bad thing. This is a step forward for both of us, just in separate directions. We will both be fine. We will help each other through the rough patches and in the end it will be a good thing.

I have received plenty of guidance throughout this process from friends and family, and the words that stick firm in my head are from the Chaplain at work..."It's not the 1950's anymore, you don't have to stay married for the sake of staying married." We are still in it for better or worse, for the kids, for our families, for each other...we are just doing from different households now.

We ask in advance for your kindness and sensitivity in the coming months.

“Some of us think holding on makes us strong but sometimes it is letting go”

― Hermann Hesse

Sincerely,

W & T