Even the basics of keeping them alive and not bleeding can sometimes be a chore. As I type, my daughter still has a broken arm so I don't even score an "A" in that department. Plus there's feeding them…every…single…day…is there ever enough food?
Then comes the responsibility guiding them thru life.
Perhaps you shouldn't hang out with so-and-so…she's a ho-bag.
Drugs…never ok.
Drinking…not til you are 27.
Sex…STDs are everywhere, keep the pecker in the pants til you are married. Let Mommy show you a picture of vaginal warts...
Don't hit people…unless they hit you first.
Don't lie…Santa is watching you
Don't steal…Santa is still watching you.
Get good grades and go to college or get used to saying "Want fries with that?"
Brush your teeth or they will fall out.
No it is NOT ok to fart at the kitchen table.
The list is friggin' endless.
Children are born blind to the way the world works. We guide them thru life and just hope they don't end up as ax-murderers.
I often go back and forth between "allowing" them to form their own opinions versus telling them "THIS" is right or "THIS" is wrong. My son has been coming home from school lately with a vast array of topics to discuss. *thank you health class*
The latest was him wondering what my views on abortion are. Am I pro life or pro choice? At what point do I consider the fetus to be a "baby"? Now…I have definite opinions. But do I share those or do I let him form his own opinions based on what he reads/sees/hears?! Do I necessarily want him to have my same views? I don't know. Who's to say mine are right or wrong?! Who's to say any opinion is right or wrong?
I try to give him facts/data and then create an open and honest conversation. Same goes for politics and religion…these are HUGE topics that are lifelong discussions, and not ones that I just want to say "The right answer is…"
Parents can only give good advice or put them on the right paths, but the final forming of a person's character lies in their own hands." - Anne Frank
I think your doing goos Wendy.
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